the erosion of referees authority has existed for the whole of my life as a football fan, it hasn't just suddenly appeared with VAR. the game moves on because there's far more money involved, everything about the sport has changed and everything will be analysed to the nth degree. we might not like a lot of it and there's always a nostalgia about the past but, sadly in some cases, the old days are gone. VAR was intended to help referees make better calls and avoid bad errors or else there is no point to it. they didn't for instance have to spend ages on offside decisions, they could have simplified it considerably to a clear gap or something similar.
if VAR is shining a light on many referees inability to identify simulation or their understanding of what constitutes actual foul play then I think its better to know and maybe do something about that than continue in blind ignorance and expectation that they know what they're doing. we do and we have to accept referees decisions, I don't think any of us are calling for extra points or replays, but at the same time we shouldn't expect the game to continue with up to 5 mins to check something, refs giving penalties for nothing and citing minimal contact as good evidence or allowing shin high tackles to go unpunished. it has to be better than what it currently is.