Things that make you SAD thread.

[lemonjelly]

sometimes we reach that state mate. I avoided sending an email a few hours ago, as I wrote it in a stressed state, and I am likely to re-draft it in the morning.

Pop your feelings at the mo onto a post it note, and plan to have a chat with your colleagues again tomorrow. It's reasonable to be pressured as a result of being dropped in it. Equally, there may be viable reasons why your colleague didn't do what they said they would do. But get the issues written down or something so you don't go over and over it all night.

 

[Tredman]

sometimes we reach that state mate. I avoided sending an email a few hours ago, as I wrote it in a stressed state, and I am likely to re-draft it in the morning.

Pop your feelings at the mo onto a post it note, and plan to have a chat with your colleagues again tomorrow. It's reasonable to be pressured as a result of being dropped in it. Equally, there may be viable reasons why your colleague didn't do what they said they would do. But get the issues written down or something so you don't go over and over it all night.

Thanks LJ, good advice.

Have been for a walk (probably more of a stalk) along the river and feel more sanguine about it now.

 

[lemonjelly]

I used the post it note strategy friday. manager sent me an email as I was about to log off for the weekend. Obviously curiosity made me read it, and mentally I spiralled. Cycling home head was all over the place.
That could've wiped me out all weekend. I got home, and whilst smoking jotted down the 5 points the email raised for me. I put the post it away for the weekend.

I was very surprised at how effectively it stopped the issues going round in my head. It properly parked them, and I was able to get on with the weekend. Although I knew it still needed dealing with, I wasn't in that vicious going around the issues (and drawing more issues in) that you get into.

I intended to revisit my note this morning. As it turns out, it took til late afternoon, and the email I mentioned originally was the result. Which I'll review again in the morning, and will then send.

I've been given the "jot it down" advice many times before. Never really done it, as I worried I'd then mull over it more, trying to plan or work a resolution. I got both my feelings down and also the issue(s), and like I say, was surprised to find I left the anger/stress there.

 

[Deutsch Wolf]

I do write it down quite a lot sometimes when I feel bad, sometimes on here, sometimes in a proper article, sometimes just in a Notepad file to myself. Does help being a writer after all

It helps, especially when it's just my stupid mind playing tricks. Outside that I know now I'm better off walking away from conflict, assessing it properly and then making a decision on what to do or say. Doesn't preclude the possibility of giving someone both barrels when required/deserved but at least I'll have thought it through.

I don't follow this 100% of the time but I do try. Losing it isn't a good look for me and it isn't for most people I'd think.

 

[Alan]

When I lived in colder climes, I would write down the worst of my depressive/anxious feelings on loose leaf and then toss them in a fire outside. Made for some very nice self-therapy.

 

[PPB]

I do write it down quite a lot sometimes when I feel bad, sometimes on here, sometimes in a proper article, sometimes just in a Notepad file to myself. Does help being a writer after all

It helps, especially when it's just my stupid mind playing tricks. Outside that I know now I'm better off walking away from conflict, assessing it properly and then making a decision on what to do or say. Doesn't preclude the possibility of giving someone both barrels when required/deserved but at least I'll have thought it through.

I don't follow this 100% of the time but I do try. Losing it isn't a good look for me and it isn't for most people I'd think.

I write in a journal, which I've been doing for a few years now. Don't write in it everyday, but in stressful times, when I'm worried, angry, concerned. It's not all doom and gloom, also write on my happy days too. I hope that whoever gets to read them when I'm jed and gone finds them interesting and brings a smile to their face.

Don't know why but I always write in ink and a fountain pen.

 

[Paul]

I went on a Youtube journey last night, you know when you start off watching something then within an hour you're watching something totally unrelated, well I was going along alright until it started suggesting reactions to Gary Speeds passing, then I was just started getting all emotional, Youtube shouldn't be there to make me sad the bastards

 

[Pablowolf]

His passing was great but I didn't think much to his goals/games ratio.

 

[b3h]

you know when you start off watching something then within an hour you're watching something totally unrelated

I did this the other night on FB and now think I'm in a cult

 

[Paul]

I always thought you was one ?..................................So sorry mate misread it

 

[PPB]

Today's a shit day. Today feels like an existence and not a life. Mom is missing seeing family, I'm trying my best to lift her spirits. Hubby is quieter than normal and trying to lift his spirits. Even the Christmas tree in the corner can fuck off

 

[b3h]

Today's a shit day. Today feels like an existence and not a life. Mom is missing seeing family, I'm trying my best to lift her spirits. Hubby is quieter than normal and trying to lift his spirits. Even the Christmas tree in the corner can fuck off

I think a lot of people are starting to feel a bit... pointless, especially the older folks who have barely left house since this started

We just gotta keep going, ay?

 

[sycophantia]

Today's a shit day. Today feels like an existence and not a life. Mom is missing seeing family, I'm trying my best to lift her spirits. Hubby is quieter than normal and trying to lift his spirits. Even the Christmas tree in the corner can fuck off

Me and my missus have days like this, I suppose its inevitable but we all just have to stick it out best we can and look forward to next year, hopefully by the spring we'll start to some kind return to a more normal life.......hang in there

 

[Parkins left foot]

Today's a shit day. Today feels like an existence and not a life. Mom is missing seeing family, I'm trying my best to lift her spirits. Hubby is quieter than normal and trying to lift his spirits. Even the Christmas tree in the corner can fuck off

This time around it's been harder than the first lockdown as at least then we knew nothing about the virus so needed to seperate ourselves.

We know more now, but are still not allowed to make our own risk related decisions.

Being on my own its been more isolating (particularly living in an area which isn't a hive of activity at the best of times) & at least we had decent weather to get outside the first time.

There's been a couple of days that I've got to the end of and realised that I've done feck all.

 

[PPB]

Sorry for letting feelings out. I know it's hard for everyone, and especially for those of you living alone. Just some days you cope with this better than other days, today I had a bit of a blip.

Keep doing things that make you happy, motivated, and focused on the end to all of this

 

[Deutsch Wolf]

Never be sorry for saying how you feel.

It is wank being on your own, there's a million things I'd like to treat my good lady to and I can't, but we just fight through it. Eventually it will be over.

 

[Parkins left foot]

Sorry for letting feelings out. I know it's hard for everyone, and especially for those of you living alone. Just some days you cope with this better than other days, today I had a bit of a blip.

Keep doing things that make you happy, motivated, and focused on the end to all of this

Agree with DW - never be sorry for letting things out - we are all feeling shit at times and have bad days

You always need to be able to talk to someone else.

 

[PPB]

Tomorrow going to see mother in law, first time since March. Strict measures are in place. Wash hands, glove up, mask,visor, overall, temp taken,and see each other through a screen in a room separated from anyone else.

Someone with dementia i'm positive this is going to do more harm than good. She hasn't seen us in about 9 months, we can't touch her, and our faces are hidden. Been trying to write a list of things to talk to her about, news to tell her, to try to get her engaged in any talk. It's difficult.

 

[sycophantia]

Tomorrow going to see mother in law, first time since March. Strict measures are in place. Wash hands, glove up, mask,visor, overall, temp taken,and see each other through a screen in a room separated from anyone else.

Someone with dementia i'm positive this is going to do more harm than good. She hasn't seen us in about 9 months, we can't touch her, and our faces are hidden. Been trying to write a list of things to talk to her about, news to tell her, to try to get her engaged in any talk. It's difficult.

That sounds tough, all you can do is your best to try and communicate best you can and hope she gets summat out of it.....good luck

 

[PPB]

That sounds tough, all you can do is your best to try and communicate best you can and hope she gets summat out of it.....good luck

Thanks sycophantia.

Taken up the back stairway into a cordoned off room.We were behind a wall of screen, virtually floor to ceiling. I really do understand the measures in p!ace, I really do, but feels like you are visiting someone in prison.

The worst part when MIL kept repeating that she was frightened..Asked us to take that ' stuff off your faces ' we said we cant, not allowed to. She then asked for a cuddle, hug and a kiss off her son and he had to say ' I can't mom, I'm not allowed to today ' A nurse came in and hugged MIL and said ' that is off your son '

Not a happy experience but knowing she is being looked after and protected as best as they can is all we can ask for.

Right match night, and I have a nice bottle of red and hoping for at least a point