It's interesting. I can only speak from the Welsh perspective on this, where we have been to England what Walsall are to Wolves for pretty much all my existence on this dustball. It's actually great to take on England as "near equals and actually quite exciting". Scotland football fans see it very very differently, auld enemy and all that.
Now, in rugby, I have happily worn shirts about only two teams I ever support, Wales and whoever is playing England. That is where the Wales England hate is, and I think it is actually fairly mutual in Rugby. Yet we play each other every year, minimum, the games never have any crowd nastiness, and they are bloody incredible events to attend. The ABE fucking arrogance shit is very much (for me at least) based in rugby. However, I must stress that when I haven't had a ticket (regularly as they can be like bloody gold dust!), I have watched games with very good friends like Dan and co who are obviously massive England fans. Banter is massive on both sides, but there is mutual respect too. I respected the England 2003 World Cup side (through gritted teeth - but I took it in good part).
I am looking forward to taking on England in the World Cup, in the same way as it was very exciting in the Euros in 2016. It will be a fairly meh match I suspect, as the two teams don't seem to create classics when they play, but there will be a decent frisson that should create a great atmosphere.