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The Mental Health thread

Eight years ago I was having a seizure on the floor at my Dad's house. If I'd been on my own, I'd be dead now. All brought on by alcohol and substance abuse, all caused by being a manic depressive (as well as being a bit of a fucking prick).

I'm a fine upstanding member of society now, or so I'm told. It can be done. Don't let the bastard get you.
 
Just been reading about Stan Collymore's latest troubles, that me for literally 4-5 months last year.

Thankfully Im in a much better place now. Have come to terms with the fact I'll never be perfect and healthy, but I battle through day by day.
 
Just been reading about Stan Collymore's latest troubles, that me for literally 4-5 months last year.

Thankfully Im in a much better place now. Have come to terms with the fact I'll never be perfect and healthy, but I battle through day by day.
I think this is critical. If we accept ourselves, including our faults, it helps us help ourselves significantly. It also reduces our personal stresses.
 
I think it's important to embrace your faults.
 
I'm way too hard on myself, all the time (to the point of blaming myself for things that aren't really my fault) and I push myself far too hard. Working on that. I'm good, not unbreakable.
 
I too look to find my fault for anything that goes wrong, especially at work, had to give up a job in junior management about 25 years ago because I found myself blaming me for problems caused by the 20 people I was supervising to the point of not being able to delegate properly. Tbh I've always suffered from a lack of self confidence even though I know where my strengths lie
 
The key to all of this stuff (IMO) is recognising it and trying to help yourself (or accept help from others). My wife has anxiety and had a really hard time for ages especially at work because she would either get really stressed about little things that didn’t matter, or would be a really easy target to shift blame to, as she would think she probably was involved in whatever went wrong, even if she then realised later that she wasn’t.

It took ages for her to think about what she could do differently, or even to talk about it - talking helped “air the problems”, and that was a start - then we have mindfulness which has helped her calm down and focus a bit more, and she’s doing miles better - studying to be an accountant where a little OCD in getting things accurate is a good thing.

Anyway, just wanted to say Deutsch’ approach above is good - recognise the issues , be open about them, accept help and be kind to yourself about them. - oh, and try stuff that might help you, even if you assume at first it won’t.
 
I had a really positive experience at work recently. I'd had a fair few promotions in a short space of time coupled with more responsibilities outside of work too. It all got on top of me a bit and my head wasnt right, thinking about work outside of work, dreading the walk in to work in the morning

So I told my boss what was going on, he was brilliant - took me out of the office to a neutral space for a coffee and talked it all out. I told him exactly what I was thinking and feeling. They're going to take away my biggest stressors and have said to have a think about what I want the job to look like and they will make it happen.

I've also had a few realisations about how I deal with stress so I'm going to seek some professional help - it's a pattern I've been through before but am only realising it now.

I think like most people I'm my biggest critic, I need to be my own fan too and remember the good things that I do, and not just dwell on the negatives
 
Tired of feeling like this
Tired of fighting all the time
Tired of constant running thoughts
Tired of battling myself
Tired of just being tired
 
Shit mate, sad to hear that. Hang on in there. Plenty of us care about you and want you on our forthcoming European tour!
 
My other halfs boss, wow. She's a French and German credit controller for a business travel agency. She's really struggled this year and has had 80 odd sick days owing to anxiety and depression.

Her line manager has been really supportive but the unexpected death of his partner has lead to her coming into direct contact with her department manager.

Polar opposite. He's pig ignorant.

She's had two meetings with occupational health and the DM has ignored the recommendations, primarily a laptop - her anxiety is tiggered by being in a large open plan office so would benefit from being able to use a meeting room or work from home. She's been left to implement her other reasonable adjustments with zero assistance.

He throws what I term mental health hand grenades, she spoke to him and suggested going to part time hours "what's the point? When you're off, you're off for weeks at a time"

After the second OH meeting he said "if you struggle to get out of bed how will working from home help?"

"Do you know how hard it is to run a department when you're constantly off?"

He's created an utterly hostile working environment for her and now she's facing a WCA (work capability assessment) in which she could be terminated despite this cunt exasperating her condition and the company offering zero despite the medical evidence provided by her GP, MH advocate and the Occupational Therapist.
 
If that is all documented then you will be able to sue and you will win.
 
My other halfs boss, wow. She's a French and German credit controller for a business travel agency. She's really struggled this year and has had 80 odd sick days owing to anxiety and depression.

Her line manager has been really supportive but the unexpected death of his partner has lead to her coming into direct contact with her department manager.

Polar opposite. He's pig ignorant.

She's had two meetings with occupational health and the DM has ignored the recommendations, primarily a laptop - her anxiety is tiggered by being in a large open plan office so would benefit from being able to use a meeting room or work from home. She's been left to implement her other reasonable adjustments with zero assistance.

He throws what I term mental health hand grenades, she spoke to him and suggested going to part time hours "what's the point? When you're off, you're off for weeks at a time"

After the second OH meeting he said "if you struggle to get out of bed how will working from home help?"

"Do you know how hard it is to run a department when you're constantly off?"

He's created an utterly hostile working environment for her and now she's facing a WCA (work capability assessment) in which she could be terminated despite this cunt exasperating her condition and the company offering zero despite the medical evidence provided by her GP, MH advocate and the Occupational Therapist.


That company is on course for having to payout

That's a case study in what not to do and the individual is being discriminated against, the company have in no way acted in a reasonable way.

If not already started the individual should get professional advice
 
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