The Advice Thread

[Tredman]

Bear in mind you can claim tax relief on the difference between what your employer funds at 13p/mile and the Govt mileage allowance at 45p/mile for first 10,000 and 25p/mile thereafter,

Good point, the rebate’s usually worth around £1.5k to me a year, my mileage rate is the standard HMRC rate (12p I think).

 

[Pablowolf]

Probably the best one I've found so far.

I wasn't 100% sure because, you know, that's where the fire started that decimated the place.

 

[MARKakaJIM]

Bear in mind you can claim tax relief on the difference between what your employer funds at 13p/mile and the Govt mileage allowance at 45p/mile for first 10,000 and 25p/mile thereafter,

Already accounted for in my comparison, saw earlier that HMRC guide rates has dropped to 12p/mile so our company rate has probably dropped too.

Think my mileage makes most finance options too expensive and there's not a high enough proportion of it as business miles to cover it. Probably need another 20% or so extra on the offered allowance to bridge the gap and make it worthwhile.

 

[Paul]

What happened to cause this "Most users ever online was 975, 20th January 2020 at 05:40 PM." I can't see anything significant on this date, or was it just a 'bot flood'

 

[Tredman]

Think that was when you accidentally live streamed your webcam Paul.

 

[Sniffer]

What happened to cause this "Most users ever online was 975, 20th January 2020 at 05:40 PM." I can't see anything significant on this date, or was it just a 'bot flood'

I'd say that it was an influx of visitors who support Liverpool in the run up to our game with them.

 

[Paul]

Think that was when you accidentally live streamed your webcam Paul.

I hope it wasn't cold that day

 

[Pablowolf]

I hope it wasn't cold that day

I've just assumed Hednesford is 15-20 degrees colder than the rest of the midlands and that your heating is off.

 

[Paul]

That's what I'm going with

 

[Dire Wolf]

Needing some words of advice/helpful suggestions.

My partner's 18 year old son is lazy. He stays up all night playing games and watching youtube and sleeps all day. He gets up through the night to make food for himself and at least 4 or 5 nights a week he wakes me up. It's an issue for me and it is affecting my quality of life. My partner, she's blase about it and says he'll grow out of it, but she never gets woken up by him. I've taken to waking him during the day and telling him to get up, but now he's asked her to ask me not to wake him and she's happy to let him sleep all day. It's really pissed me off to the point that I'm having reservations about going ahead with buying a house with her if she's going to let him be like that all the time.

Any suggestions?

 

[Sniffer]

Needing some words of advice/helpful suggestions.

My partner's 18 year old son is lazy. He stays up all night playing games and watching youtube and sleeps all day. He gets up through the night to make food for himself and at least 4 or 5 nights a week he wakes me up. It's an issue for me and it is affecting my quality of life. My partner, she's blase about it and says he'll grow out of it, but she never gets woken up by him. I've taken to waking him during the day and telling him to get up, but now he's asked her to ask me not to wake him and she's happy to let him sleep all day. It's really pissed me off to the point that I'm having reservations about going ahead with buying a house with her if she's going to let him be like that all the time.

Any suggestions?

I'd be asking why she's willing to support him so that you don't break his sleep pattern but she seems unconcerned that he's breaking yours.

 

[Tredman]

No easy answer to this, if your partner doesn't see anything wrong anything you do is just going to cause friction between the two of you - and if it comes down to it her child will always win out.

Does he work? Perhaps making him pay board might encourage him to find work, which in turn will sort out the sleeping times.

 

[sycophantia]

Its going to be tough, 18 is far too late to be instilling discipline/self discipline. Tredmans idea is a good one, our three all paid keep as soon as they got full time jobs. Be prepared for some rows

 

[Paul]

I was in a similar position as you as the wife had two kids when we met, the only advice I can offer is it needs to be you and your partner who dictate the rules not just you alone ,you will inevitably get the 'your're not my Dad' that's just part of the deal, but you also do not want your partner forced to chose between you and her son. It's a fine line but things do work out in the end.

Being a step parent is one of the most under valued paths to follow, but eventually the most rewarding

 

[Del Woppio]

He's far too old to get that knocked out of him now tbh. And besides that, if it's not her ideals, it's difficult to enforce as it's got to be both together. Just start doing loads of noisy stuff at half eight in the morning to teach the lazy cunt a lesson. Does she charge him board or at least expect jobs to be done, or is he totally free loading?

 

[Dire Wolf]

Thanks for the replies everyone. It's a very frustrating situation. As it stands he isn't working but hopefully that will change as he's got an interview for an apprenticeship soon. But generally he's completely free loading and expects everything done for him. He does the occasional chore if he's asked to but not on a regular 'put the bins out every week' basis. He has been told that he will have start paying something but when he does fuck all it's difficult to get a contribution. He says he wants to find a job but makes no effort to look himself, my partner looks and puts in applications for him and told him if he doesnt like what she's applying for then he better start applying for himself. He won't do that though as he'll always take the easy option.

 

[Langers]

Aside from this issue (which would piss me off no end!) how do you get along with him? Are you able to talk to him about other stuff? If there's some level of respect between the two of you, I would suggest having a proper talk to him explaining why it's unacceptable.

If he doesn't listen to you, I'd talk to your partner and let her know how it affects you.

Not often I will say 'listen to Paul' but I agree with a lot of what he posted - it needs to be a team effort and you need to be on the same team.

Good luck and I hope something gets sorted!

 

[Del Woppio]

Thanks for the replies everyone. It's a very frustrating situation. As it stands he isn't working but hopefully that will change as he's got an interview for an apprenticeship soon. But generally he's completely free loading and expects everything done for him. He does the occasional chore if he's asked to but not on a regular 'put the bins out every week' basis. He has been told that he will have start paying something but when he does fuck all it's difficult to get a contribution. He says he wants to find a job but makes no effort to look himself, my partner looks and puts in applications for him and told him if he doesnt like what she's applying for then he better start applying for himself. He won't do that though as he'll always take the easy option.

I can see this being my life in 10 years time tbh. Kid literally never does has he's told, and we're not talking cinderella stuff either, just blatantly ignores her and just does what he wants. But she's happy to live like that so I can do fuck all about it. He'll still be living with his mom when he's 30, doing nothing but gaming, wanking onto Pokemon teddies and pissing all over the toilet seat.

 

[Deutsch Wolf]

He says he wants to find a job but makes no effort to look himself, my partner looks and puts in applications for him and told him if he doesnt like what she's applying for then he better start applying for himself. He won't do that though as he'll always take the easy option.

Absolutely tae fuck with this. That is appalling!

He needs to grow up by the sound of it.

 

[b3h]

Pretty much sounds like my brother with my dad and step mom. He even started a promising apprentice job with tree surgeons and walked out on that. Recently started working with my cousin doing reclaims which my Dad sorted. Step mom is not happy and mentioned she wants him out if it continues. Think you need to talk properly to your partner about making him change or he probably won't...