The things that I really, really like thread...

[Langers]

In all seriousness, because my marriage didn't work doesn't mean I'm anti-marriage. Far from it actually - I love going to weddings and whilst I may well decide not to go through it all again myself, I do enjoy a good knees up at a wedding. I can't understand anyone who doesn't enjoy going to them, certainly not the party bit at the end.

Going to one next May which promises to be a right laugh - loads of top people I know are going and it's a free bar! #win

 

[PPB]

I agree that marriage is not for everyone. Obviously I can only speak of my own experience. And in September we will be celebrating our 40th wedding anniversary. I bet you are wondering how I have put up with her for so long....!

40 years! Your other half must have the patience of a Saint Frankie! Mine's in September too, what dates yours??

 

[FrankMunro-371]

27th Susie.

 

[Deutsch Wolf]

In all seriousness, because my marriage didn't work doesn't mean I'm anti-marriage. Far from it actually - I love going to weddings and whilst I may well decide not to go through it all again myself, I do enjoy a good knees up at a wedding. I can't understand anyone who doesn't enjoy going to them, certainly not the party bit at the end.

Going to one next May which promises to be a right laugh - loads of top people I know are going and it's a free bar! #win

This, providing you know a decent amount of people there what's not to like?

Didn't work out for me and I'm not looking for anyone any time soon but never say never. If PPB can stop me being such a Grinch about Christmas then anything is possible...

 

[PPB]

27th Susie.

Mines 13th. Yours is now wrote on the Anniversary list

 

[PPB]

If PPB can stop me being such a Grinch about Christmas then anything is possible...

:yikes:



By the way, its only 167 days away

 

[Deutsch Wolf]

I said stop being such a Grinch, not a Grinch altogether

 

[Langers]

This, providing you know a decent amount of people there what's not to like?

Didn't work out for me and I'm not looking for anyone any time soon but never say never. If PPB can stop me being such a Grinch about Christmas then anything is possible...

Quite - it's amazing how much things can change in a short space of time as well. Who knows what life will throw at us?

:yikes:



By the way, its only 167 days away

And I bet you didn't even have to calculate that. You just knew, didn't you...?

 

[PPB]

And I bet you didn't even have to calculate that. You just knew, didn't you...?

No, its cos every morning I put a tick on my ' Countdown To Christmas ' calendar

 

[MARKakaJIM]

In all seriousness, because my marriage didn't work doesn't mean I'm anti-marriage. Far from it actually - I love going to weddings and whilst I may well decide not to go through it all again myself, I do enjoy a good knees up at a wedding. I can't understand anyone who doesn't enjoy going to them, certainly not the party bit at the end.

Going to one next May which promises to be a right laugh - loads of top people I know are going and it's a free bar! #win

No issue with a party, as long as there's a decent guest list but being invited along for the entire day generally bores the tits off me.

Often having to go to the back of beyond to some church that the bride had her heart set on, or a baking hot joyless island in the med, and have to dress far more formally than I would ever choose, all that coupled with it generally being in the hottest time of the year so you really don't want to be all dolled up and driving around somewhere. Then you've got the agonising waits for the service to start, having all the pictures taken whilst you're just standing around doing nothing, having to make your way over to reception venue, then you get a meal with very little choice of what to eat, another boring wait whilst they change the room around for the evening do, i'm still uncomfortable as fuck being overdressed through all this.

By the time the good bit comes round I'm already fucked off, been up for hours, fucked around all over the place and been sat in a bastard suit for the entire time, it's not even like I care about the ceremonial side of it either so I gain literally nothing from the days events. I honestly think I had more fun at the wake of the one funeral I've attended than any of weddings I've been to.

 

[MARKakaJIM]

Mines 13th. Yours is now wrote on the Anniversary list

My mom's birthday.

 

[PPB]

My mom's birthday.

How about that

 

[Deutsch Wolf]

Genuinely cannot see the issue in wearing a suit, who doesn't like looking nice? I'm all for a trackies and t shirt day when the occasion demands it but on balance I'd prefer to put some effort in more often than not.

 

[MARKakaJIM]

It's just not something I'd ever choose to wear.

I'd never wear smart trousers or shoes unless I had to, I rarely even wear a proper shirt by choice. I'm comfortable in jeans, t-shirt and trainers. I just don't like formal attire, i'm not comfortable in it.

 

[PPB]

No issue with a party, as long as there's a decent guest list but being invited along for the entire day generally bores the tits off me.

Often having to go to the back of beyond to some church that the bride had her heart set on, or a baking hot joyless island in the med, and have to dress far more formally than I would ever choose, all that coupled with it generally being in the hottest time of the year so you really don't want to be all dolled up and driving around somewhere. Then you've got the agonising waits for the service to start, having all the pictures taken whilst you're just standing around doing nothing, having to make your way over to reception venue, then you get a meal with very little choice of what to eat, another boring wait whilst they change the room around for the evening do, i'm still uncomfortable as fuck being overdressed through all this.

By the time the good bit comes round I'm already fucked off, been up for hours, fucked around all over the place and been sat in a bastard suit for the entire time, it's not even like I care about the ceremonial side of it either so I gain literally nothing from the days events. I honestly think I had more fun at the wake of the one funeral I've attended than any of weddings I've been to.

:icon_lol: I hope I never find myself sitting by you at a wedding!!

 

[The Bear]

I just think that marriage is another fake social construct, that people feel they need to do to show their commitment. Which is a load of rubbish. If you are committed to spending the rest of your life with someone then you don't need a piece of paper that cost you £10k to prove it. Just move in with them. If you want the same surname, then change it by deed poll.

Plus divorces and divorce settlements are so biased towards women it's untrue.

 

[Langers]

Got to hand it to you Mark - you put a real effort into making no effort and being generally miserable about nothing. It's a talent.

 

[FrankMunro-371]

I just think that marriage is another fake social construct, that people feel they need to do to show their commitment. Which is a load of rubbish. If you are committed to spending the rest of your life with someone then you don't need a piece of paper that cost you £10k to prove it. Just move in with them. If you want the same surname, then change it by deed poll.

Plus divorces and divorce settlements are so biased towards women it's untrue.

You are entitled to your opinion, but personally I think marriage is great. Yes we have had disagreements from time to time, and yes early on finances were extremely tight, but not for one minute do I regret getting married.

 

[Deutsch Wolf]

I just think that marriage is another fake social construct, that people feel they need to do to show their commitment. Which is a load of rubbish. If you are committed to spending the rest of your life with someone then you don't need a piece of paper that cost you £10k to prove it. Just move in with them. If you want the same surname, then change it by deed poll.

Plus divorces and divorce settlements are so biased towards women it's untrue.

That's quite a bleak viewpoint though. If I didn't ever spend money on frivolities then I'd never leave the house.

 

[The Bear]

What would be different now though if you didn't get married Frank? You'd still be living together and love each other just as much.

Marriage serves no real purpose other than to tell society you are exclusive.