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The Mental Health thread

I constantly get mocked for my use of lists! I've had a list (paper, old school me) in my pocket for approaching 15 years I guess. It started with a list of books I wanted to read, and evolved. As well as the book list I have a weekly list and a daily list. Quite likely some who have met me on here have seen me in the london, or at games get the list out an scribble stuff on it to do, or cross things off, & thought WTF? :icon_lol:

I also use a diary a lot.

people tell me I rely on it too much, but I get things done. Even simple things like seeing a good tv programme wouldn't happen unless it went on my list. I'd forget and miss out.

I expect due ribbing from friends on here about it, but it helps me big time!
 
I wish I could keep lists but I forget to make them. My memory in recent months has been shocking.

The wife does lists and she is obsessively organised and it annoys because I want to be like that
 
You have to keep it in the same place. It becomes habitual then. I can feel when the list isn't there! Because they (yes, plural!) are held together by a little bulldog clip, you can see marks on most of my jeans where it lives!

i'm sure you always have a pocket. Mine lives in my back pocket all the time. And there is always a pen in another pocket too. Because you never know when things will pop into your head.

And yes, housecoat boy is aware how this sounds...
 
I pretty much run my life through Trello, although I learnt about kanban boards in the last 18 months that has taken it to a whole new level. Would recommend checking Trello out if you've not come across it before.
 
Bit of advice needed from you good folks,a work colleague who's one of the few I like,is back at work after a few months off with anxiety,stress and or depression is back,I was just wondering how as a decent person I should treat them now they're back,do I just treat them like before,with piss taking and whatever,go easy on them,or go really easy on them?
I've talked to them,mentioned the rumours about why they'd been off,they said it was a mental health thing,I just said it was nice to have them back and how it's a long road back with ups and downs,and then just chatted normally with them,am I doing a reasonable job as it is or making a complete hash of it?
 
You be a good human being. Listen, support, and also promote engagement with appropriate health professionals if they are struggling. I'm sure you know how to be a decent human being and a good friend.

Take care with jokes - the law of unintended consequences can strike. However, use humour with them on other issues.

There is no right or wrong way imo. It is more a factor of doing the best you can, and remembering how kindness can be such a positive emotion for you, as well as them.
 
I'd say a bit of light banter is fine, you'll know where the line is.

The fact that you're thinking about how to approach it suggests you're already doing the right things and being sensitive to your colleagues position
 
Don't tiptoe around people, I hate it if folk do that with me. I'm ill, I accept that, there are awful times and ok times, it just is how it is.

My illness said don't go to Espanyol. I say fuck off, I'm going.
 
Thanks for the advice,it's turned out to have been not needed,the work colleague quit this morning after the school run,felt he wasn't getting the help needed from the company,and the manager has been having sly digs at him (man up,just get a grip,cheer up that sort of thing) so he just thought fuck it,I'm better off out of here
 
Thanks for the advice,it's turned out to have been not needed,the work colleague quit this morning after the school run,felt he wasn't getting the help needed from the company,and the manager has been having sly digs at him (man up,just get a grip,cheer up that sort of thing) so he just thought fuck it,I'm better off out of here

Its a shame that some companies are still operating in the dark-ages! They are the ones who need to "get a grip", fuckers
 
Keep going mate, you know people are there for you (I know its not as straightforward as that though). The only comparison I can make was when I was unemployed 1980-83 and then 2012-2014, similar symptons as you but not as bad I think, lethargy, lack of self worth, guilt etc. Luckily I've always had good people around me, famlly/friends, but its still tough.
I'm probably being over simplistic but I'm assuming you've tried anti depressants? My missus has been on them for 10+ years, tried to come off them about 5 years ago which was an absolute disaster, doctor prescribed some different ones which made things even worse, it took another couple of attempts at different drugs but eventually found some that were perfect.
Apologies if any of this is dumb
 
You name them, I've been on them!

I'm not saying they don't have any impact but fundamentally they don't fix the problem on their own. I've got to do that.
 
Going to see some specialists on Thursday morning.

If this breaks me for good, it won't be for the want of trying. I have to stop lying to myself though, you can't do it on your own Danny. You need help.
 
Keep going, Dan. Always here to talk. x
 
Good luck, Dan. Been going through a similar rough patch, myself... But we find ways through it. It's what we do.
 
Had to give myself a metaphorical slap round the face tonight as my anxiety was taking over and making me totally irrational.

If everyone could abide by the last point, please :)

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