The Mental Health thread

[darlowolf64]

Wanderer, really sorry for your loss. This thread is just the place to write down you thoughts and feelings and you will always find a sympathetic ear.
My thoughts are with you and also with you Rob

 

[Freddeno]

Feel for you Tricky and wanderer...take care and socialise if you can..I have isolated myself before and thats not helping at all, you need to think of other things and have fun with your friends..also if you can vent with them a bit then it will be better..

 

[wanderer89]

Thanks guys, it has helped hving an outlet to just talk about him and how I'm feeling definitely has helped, it feels like a bit of weight has been lifted.

I'm sure I'll need to get it out again but it's a huge lift knowing that I've got this place. You guys are awesome.

DDW, it's an awful feeling especially when you were so close that person.

 

[Parkins left foot]

Wanderer89 - sorry to hear this (not sure that I can fully understand as don't have the same connection with my male sibling as we are very different people)

If you want to vent on here then do so - the reason I signed up here is that yes it is a football forum, & yes there is some banter & jokes against the individual, but have not often really seen it vindictive (& when it has been the moderators have stopped it fairly quickly) & people have been there to support each other in times of difficulty.

Have read many forums over the years & most do not operate in that way.

 

[lemonjelly]

Thanks guys, it has helped hving an outlet to just talk about him and how I'm feeling definitely has helped, it feels like a bit of weight has been lifted.

I'm sure I'll need to get it out again but it's a huge lift knowing that I've got this place. You guys are awesome.

DDW, it's an awful feeling especially when you were so close that person.

Sometimes knowing you have that support mechanism can help you manage yourself.

Do use it. Virtual talking about how you feel can be helpful. Having to formulate it and type it out will likely help you understand yourself how you're feeling too. Which will aid your understanding.

I still miss my grandad, and have occasional guilt about how I treated him - I know all he really wanted was to spend time with me & my brother when we were little. When I became a teenager, I was selfish, and spent time with mates, or in bed, rather than go see him. He died in 1997. I know he wouldn't be angry with me for living my life, but I'd do anything to have another afternoon with him, as he was an amazing person.

The feelings you're having are social ones, though you experience them subjectively. Talking about them to others, whether here, or in real life will connect you to others, and will definitely help.

Good luck to you and tricky. As I said earlier, the first year can be really tough at times, but do all you can to remember all your happy memories where possible. Celebrate the life and shared experiences as best you can. And take care.

 

[Deutsch Wolf]

I've put a couple of job applications in over the last couple of weeks, for stuff that I really want. I don't think one is going to come off, we'll see on the other one. Whatever happens happens. The plus though is that I haven't applied for anything in 5-6 years, I never felt before that I was capable of going back to that kind of work. I was better off sticking with what I do now, which is alright but I don't really earn enough doing it (the rates of pay are fine, there just isn't enough stuff knocking around). But I think I can give it a go now (if it's the right job, I will never ever go and do something that I hate again, it'll break me).

It's a huge forward step for me, there's no way I could have done this 12 months ago or even six months ago. I've put a lot of work into all this as some of you well know and I think I've done alright.

If it doesn't work out then at least I tried my best.

 

[YoungWolf]

Great stuff Dan - best of luck and as you say if it doesn’t work you’ve give it a go!

 

[Freddeno]

I've put a couple of job applications in over the last couple of weeks, for stuff that I really want. I don't think one is going to come off, we'll see on the other one. Whatever happens happens. The plus though is that I haven't applied for anything in 5-6 years, I never felt before that I was capable of going back to that kind of work. I was better off sticking with what I do now, which is alright but I don't really earn enough doing it (the rates of pay are fine, there just isn't enough stuff knocking around). But I think I can give it a go now (if it's the right job, I will never ever go and do something that I hate again, it'll break me).

It's a huge forward step for me, there's no way I could have done this 12 months ago or even six months ago. I've put a lot of work into all this as some of you well know and I think I've done alright.

If it doesn't work out then at least I tried my best.

Good Dan, seems like the best choice if you feel good doing it..

 

[Trips]

Good to hear Dan, hope it all works out for you mate

 

[WarwickWolf]

Dan, your stuff is waaaay better than most of the stuff I read in the papers and online. Have faith in what you do - it's really very good - and keep at it.

 

[machin05]

Fingers crossed for you mate.

 

[Dublin Drummer Wolf]

That's great news Dan, fingers crossed for you. Even if you don't get either job, this is a positive step forward.

If you can apply for 2 jobs this week, you can probably apply for 2 or even 4 next week. You are making positive steps and getting better and better and before you know it, you will land one of these jobs. I am backing you!

 

[Alan]

I've kind of had an epiphany today that I've been in an abusive relationship for the past two years and change.

Absolutely terrified of what comes next but know it needs to be done.

 

[darlowolf64]

I've kind of had an epiphany today that I've been in an abusive relationship for the past two years and change.

Absolutely terrified of what comes next but know it needs to be done.

Be strong in your decision Alan but feel free to PM me if you would like to get anything off your chest, want to vent or just fancy writing it all down to unburden things

 

[Trips]

Be strong in your decision Alan but feel free to PM me if you would like to get anything off your chest, want to vent or just fancy writing it all down to unburden things

Same from me mate

 

[YoungWolf]

Likewise Alan, here to chat if you need.

 

[Del Woppio]

You mean ptg, don't you



Well done mate, the first is the hardest step

 

[Alan]

You mean ptg, don't you



Well done mate, the first is the hardest step

If only!

Appreciate the levity, though; made me crack a smile.

Cheers, all.

 

[Derby Wolf]

Hey everybody.

My significant other suffers with Anxiety and in recent weeks has seen her medication doubled and then tripled, daily panic attacks etc etc.

Her therapist thought it a good idea to do a survey on attitudes about Anxiety to challenge her own beliefs and I was hoping a few of you could take a few minutes to fill it in for her. We'd both really appreciate it if you can

https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/Y3P2CNX

 

[Trips]

Done