The Mental Health thread

[SLA]

Best wishes Tricky.

 

[lemonjelly]

LJ:- writing in the third person was fucking INSPIRED. I wrote about 300/500 words. I also tackled why "Mike" wants to study at Derby first so I could ease my way into it but it was phenomenal how easier writing mike/his/he is rather than I/my. Obviously it'll be altered back to first person before it's sent but hopefully I can finish it tomorrow save for refining.
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Glad it helped mate!

I'm probably the worst person to give advice in this area as I have ridiculous self-esteem issues (and often, in the cold light of day, I can see that they're stupid) but as I've been trying to work through it over the last year or so, I've found it helpful just to keep a list of things I've achieved in the last 12-18 months. Doesn't even have to be major stuff, some of it is work/writing related, some of it is personal hurdles. It doesn't solve everything but it does help me feel a bit better.

Yeah, this is a good tip, as it reminds us (when we're in a more negative place) that we do have abilities & can acheive stuff. When we're in a cycle, it can be very easy to believe all will not be well. Such a reminder helps restore some balance.

 

[lemonjelly]

thanks peeps for the kind words trying to keep bizzy but then I feel burnt out ! see the kids and grand kids most weekends. but feeling lonely in a room of ppl is a new one for me lol . was gonna get ST but that's gone now lol just ordered a punch bag to take the frustration out me . hope it helps like it used to

Take it steady fella. How old are you?

 

[SLA]

Tricky that's some awful news. I'm so sorry to hear. As others have said, speak to and lean on your friends and family. They're there for you.

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Thanks for the positive posts everyone. Id rather none of us felt this way at times but there is some comfort knowing I'm not alone. Today has been a much more productive day. LJ:- writing in the third person was fucking INSPIRED. I wrote about 300/500 words. I also tackled why "Mike" wants to study at Derby first so I could ease my way into it but it was phenomenal how easier writing mike/his/he is rather than I/my. Obviously it'll be altered back to first person before it's sent but hopefully I can finish it tomorrow save for refining.



You pretty much nailed how i feel about myself most of the time,Feels like a battle between the invisible telling me these baseless things and then the rational side with tangible evidence I'm capable and none of the above and this seesaw tipping one way to the other. sounds like your daughters lucky to have you trying to help her though. It's insane putting this much pressure onto young adults to know what they want to do. Best wishes to her.

Cheers, Lincs. And you're right, there's way too much pressure on kids of all ages, backgrounds and abilities at the moment. And glad to hear you've made some positive progress. I'm going to suggest the 3rd person approach to my daughter. Sounds like it's a good life hack!

 

[tricky wolf]

i'm 51 m8

 

[Tony Towner]

i'm 51 m8

Too old for text speak then [emoji6]. Not too much younger than you and in your situation would also be lost. You take care and reach out when you need to.

 

[tricky wolf]

too old for text speak ?

 

[Penk Wolf]

Anyone know Tom Blewitt? He’s just put picture of a load of pills on Twitter and wrote ‘I’m sorry I can’t fight anymore’.

If you do know him probably need to get in touch.

 

[Deutsch Wolf]

I don't know the boy but I've tried to reach out.

 

[The Bear]

Just had a quick look and it sounds as though his brother and sister were alerted through Facebook and he's ok with professionals there to help.

 

[Jinky]

Looking at his previous tweets over the last few days, it’s outrageous if one of his friends or family - or even a follower who doesn’t know him in person - didn’t attempt to reach out to him; because they do not read well at all.

Pleased he now has someone with him who can hopefully get him on the road to recovery.

 

[Deutsch Wolf]

Not always that easy mate. I have friends (including people on here) who'd run to the ends of the earth for me (well, amble in some cases). But if they asked me how I was or if I needed help at my lowest points a few years ago, I'd lie, or I'd put on a good act, or sometimes I'd just hide altogether, and there's only so much people can do.

It's very complex and very difficult for people who aren't in the midst of it to understand (and every single case is different). I'm very open these days about how I am and if I feel like crap then I will tell people. But it's taken the thick end of 20 years to get to that point.

 

[darlowolf64]

I'm "friends" with Tom and messaged him too. It's awful seeing someone so desperate and it's good news that family have gathered around him

 

[Trips]

Looked last night and only saw Mike as a mutual friend, good that his family have managed to get to him in time.

Also, I'd definitely be an ambler than a runner DW!

 

[darlowolf64]

He has replied to me and said that he is getting the medical care he needs. He has said that he he is greatful for all the well wishes he has received and that it has meant a lot to him.

I've told him to message me any time he could do with getting something off his chest. The same goes for any of you lot too! I've been through a few sticky times but I think that I am a good listener and will help as much as I can even if it's only for you to have someone to chat to

 

[wanderer89]

I lost my brother to Leukaemia in March, I thought I was dealing with it until the last few days. I just feel down, I know it's okay to feel like that but at the same time, it feels like I'm using that as an excuse for being unhappy, if that makes any sense?

We were very close, we used to talk every day, he'd help me with whatever I needed help with.
We had a few disagreements as siblings do, but I can't help but feel extremely guilty for the way I treated him.

I know this probably isn't the place to go into details with our relationship but I do struggle to talk to anyone about it, it seems easier to put it all into text and post on a forum than talk to those closest to me.

I miss him every day, there are always reminders of him which I guess help, but I don't want reminders, I just want him back.

I can go from being quite happy and then it's like someone's flipping a switch and then I'll feel down again.

I hope posting this helps me get it out, I'm not after advice, I just feel like I've got all these things I need to say about him and nobody that would really understand what I mean.

I've not got a shortage of people to talk, it's just that don't understand how close we were and how much he actually helped me.

I know I let you down on occasions bro, but all I want to do is make you proud.

You weren't just a brother, you were a best friend.

I love you

 

[Stan Hullis]

Use this forum as you need to, mate.

Reading that is truly heartbreaking and I can't for a minute imagine how it feels. So sorry for your loss.

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[WarwickWolf]

I lost my brother to Leukaemia in March, I thought I was dealing with it until the last few days. I just feel down, I know it's okay to feel like that but at the same time, it feels like I'm using that as an excuse for being unhappy, if that makes any sense?

We were very close, we used to talk every day, he'd help me with whatever I needed help with.
We had a few disagreements as siblings do, but I can't help but feel extremely guilty for the way I treated him.

I know this probably isn't the place to go into details with our relationship but I do struggle to talk to anyone about it, it seems easier to put it all into text and post on a forum than talk to those closest to me.

I miss him every day, there are always reminders of him which I guess help, but I don't want reminders, I just want him back.

I can go from being quite happy and then it's like someone's flipping a switch and then I'll feel down again.

I hope posting this helps me get it out, I'm not after advice, I just feel like I've got all these things I need to say about him and nobody that would really understand what I mean.

I've not got a shortage of people to talk, it's just that don't understand how close we were and how much he actually helped me.

I know I let you down on occasions bro, but all I want to do is make you proud.

You weren't just a brother, you were a best friend.

I love you

Horrible. Can't imagine what you've been through. It must have been horrible. It's OK to grieve, privately or publicly, there's no "right" way. Talk to people if you can or post here if it's easier. There's always someone to listen.

 

[PPB]

I lost my brother to Leukaemia in March, I thought I was dealing with it until the last few days. I just feel down, I know it's okay to feel like that but at the same time, it feels like I'm using that as an excuse for being unhappy, if that makes any sense?

We were very close, we used to talk every day, he'd help me with whatever I needed help with.
We had a few disagreements as siblings do, but I can't help but feel extremely guilty for the way I treated him.

I know this probably isn't the place to go into details with our relationship but I do struggle to talk to anyone about it, it seems easier to put it all into text and post on a forum than talk to those closest to me.

I miss him every day, there are always reminders of him which I guess help, but I don't want reminders, I just want him back.

I can go from being quite happy and then it's like someone's flipping a switch and then I'll feel down again.

I hope posting this helps me get it out, I'm not after advice, I just feel like I've got all these things I need to say about him and nobody that would really understand what I mean.

I've not got a shortage of people to talk, it's just that don't understand how close we were and how much he actually helped me.

I know I let you down on occasions bro, but all I want to do is make you proud.

You weren't just a brother, you were a best friend.

I love you

So sorry to hear of the loss of your brother and your best friend. Sometimes it helps to talk to people who are not our family or close friends, that's what I find at times. If it helps to post on here then keep on doing it.

Again, so sorry for you loss, I can't begin to imagine the emotions and grief you must be going through. But keep talking, keep talking about him, talking helps. Thoughts are with you wanderer.

 

[Dublin Drummer Wolf]

I woke up to a text from my ex and a few other mates to inform me her brother had committed suicide in New Zealand.

I was close to him in the four years I was with his sister and as a family, they were all really close. All day I cannot get him out of my head even though we stopped hanging out once I split with my ex.

Wanderer89, I cannot even begin to imagine how you must feel. I feel devastated over my ex losing her brother. You must feel infinitely worse and I can only offer you my condolences.

But your post was cathartic to me and probably others, so please continue to vent here. That's why we have this thread.