Nothing wrong in asking for advice and challenging your thinking before settling on a stance so shouldn't be hated on for that imo. More people should.
I think to understand the argument its better to look not at murder but rather motives. Most murders involving men are disputes that get out of hand as Mark says. Then you have stuff like organised crime which are predominately made up of men and is an occupational hazard of sorts. They are mostly killed on the street or at social gatherings.
The majority of women murdered are via domestic violence by a current or former partner or sexually motivated stranger violence. There is way less violence against women for possessions.
The argument isn't that it isn't unsafe for men as the stats flesh out, rather, that environments women should feel safe in aren't, 38% of women murdered was by a current/former partner contrasted to 4% for men. Of those murders 71% of them were in the home for women, against 39% for men.
Nobody is suggesting its safe or pleasant growing up in inner city London or wherever but the crucial distinction is that some women are under threat in what should be a place of refuge and security.
You can then go down the rabbit hole of cat calling, sexual harassment, sexual assault, stranger rape etc etc and marry women's experiences of the public and the private sphere to paint a fuller picture of their perceived hyper-vigilance.
Obviously, as Johnny points out Twitter and the like is a platform for the lunatic fringe on any subject, stay well away.
Source for stats quoted:-
https://www.ons.gov.uk/peoplepopula...t-the-circumstances-and-location-of-homicides
I've still got it 
