The Mental Health thread

[darlowolf64]

The one thing you learn from being massively depressed is how to be a pretty decent actor.

On this...

I found out last night that one of my best friends from when I lived in Darlington took his own life yesterday.

He split from his wife about 4 years ago, had 3 kids who he still had regular access to, had just got a new job and made new friends and there was absolutely no indication that he was anything but happy. He had spent Sunday out with the old gang watching football and then a band and seemed to be in really good spirits but he left without saying goodbye to them and that's it, he's gone.

Late last year I had persuaded him to come through for a night out and again, he seemed his old, happy self... I guess if someone wants to hide how they are feeling and are good at it, we just never know.

So keep talking, everyone, it is not a sign of weakness to talk but a sign of your strength

 

[SLA]

On this...

I found out last night that one of my best friends from when I lived in Darlington took his own life yesterday.

He split from his wife about 4 years ago, had 3 kids who he still had regular access to, had just got a new job and made new friends and there was absolutely no indication that he was anything but happy. He had spent Sunday out with the old gang watching football and then a band and seemed to be in really good spirits but he left without saying goodbye to them and that's it, he's gone.

Late last year I had persuaded him to come through for a night out and again, he seemed his old, happy self... I guess if someone wants to hide how they are feeling and are good at it, we just never know.

So keep talking, everyone, it is not a sign of weakness to talk but a sign of your strength

Sorry to hear that Darlo. Awful news.

 

[Deleted Cyber]

On this...

I found out last night that one of my best friends from when I lived in Darlington took his own life yesterday.

He split from his wife about 4 years ago, had 3 kids who he still had regular access to, had just got a new job and made new friends and there was absolutely no indication that he was anything but happy. He had spent Sunday out with the old gang watching football and then a band and seemed to be in really good spirits but he left without saying goodbye to them and that's it, he's gone.

Late last year I had persuaded him to come through for a night out and again, he seemed his old, happy self... I guess if someone wants to hide how they are feeling and are good at it, we just never know.

So keep talking, everyone, it is not a sign of weakness to talk but a sign of your strength

Oh mate , that is awful. My sincere condolences.

 

[Deutsch Wolf]

Had a pretty serious wobble last night. Could have gone either way. But I'm still here.

There are things I need to change and things I need to work on for sure.

 

[Jabbawolf]

Had a pretty serious wobble last night. Could have gone either way. But I'm still here.

There are things I need to change and things I need to work on for sure.

It’s weird, isn’t it - sometimes you can just feel like you’re on the cusp of a good spell of mental health when you inexplicably find yourself in a real slump - it will pass.

 

[tricky wolf]

well peeps I had 4 weeks of counselling , and atm I'm having some life coaching wow what a difference in mind set ! starting to feel a lot better and looking forward to the future what ever that brings . I don't know how they do it but its working for me . be well my friends :icon_smile:

 

[YoungWolf]

Glad to hear you are feeling better mate

 

[Tony Towner]

Great news, delighted you are able to look forwards

 

[lemonjelly]

Stick with it tricky! There's no silver bullet, but all progress is good.

Martin Ling speaks:
https://www.bbc.co.uk/sport/football/49177873

 

[tricky wolf]

yes lemonjelly that was me before I broke , but it was the best thing that could have happened to me bottled to much up ! now I just say what I want lol

 

[Donegal Wolf]

Think this is a great idea, lets face it we are all kids at heart, add in a bit of nostalgia thrown in as well.

https://www.independent.ie/sport/so...-ball-and-jumpers-for-goalposts-38407593.html

 

[Deutsch Wolf]

Very, very poor over the last couple of days. I think I am over the worst of it but it has been really horrible.

Sometimes I think I'm not really cut out for life.

 

[jlo]

Very, very poor over the last couple of days. I think I am over the worst of it but it has been really horrible.

Sometimes I think I'm not really cut out for life.

You are cut out though bud, stick with it x

A few years ago I really didn't understand (but didn't know I didn't understand) how much of an impact MH can have on life. It affects my partner quite critically and I still don't really understand what my role needs to be, and how to look after my own MH in the process.

 

[Deutsch Wolf]

I feel very humbled that people value me, they really shouldn't.

There'll come a time when enough is enough. But I'm still here.

 

[lemonjelly]

You are cut out though bud, stick with it x

A few years ago I really didn't understand (but didn't know I didn't understand) how much of an impact MH can have on life. It affects my partner quite critically and I still don't really understand what my role needs to be, and how to look after my own MH in the process.

That's pretty much why I started the thread tbh. My OH had such a severe episode it became very apparent to me the implications for my own MH. I started a pm conversation with another poster here, who was super supportive and shared information and insights with me that were great. I remain hugely appreciative to that person who gave me their time.

Bearing in mind of course that I work with people experiencing MH situations, so I wasn't coming to the problem totally unprepared, but even so the struggle was immense.

I now frequently refer to myself as someone who "doesn't have a diagnosed MH problem" because I continue to feel that my personal MH fluctuates.

 

[lemonjelly]

I feel very humbled that people value me, they really shouldn't.

There'll come a time when enough is enough. But I'm still here.

we need to help you value yourself too, perhaps.

 

[Deutsch Wolf]

It's way too late for that I would suggest. 20 years ago maybe.

I have a choice, I fight it or I don't. Although eventually you punch yourself out and there's nothing left.

 

[lemonjelly]

It's never too late to learn something, someone once told me.

There's always hope, someone else said.

 

[lemonjelly]

According to this article, 84 men took their own lives each week in 2018 in the UK.

84 men A WEEK!

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-birmingham-49987757

 

[Deutsch Wolf]

A tough few weeks. This last few days in particular has been hard.

I won't give in though. Fuck that. People need me as a ticket tout for a start.